The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field

5 Responses to “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field”

1. O. Voumvas says:

   October 13, 2010 at 8:17 pm

   This review is for the audio edition. No stars is the right rating of a silly conversation with an ancient guy who cannot talk. The level of the meanings and thoughts it is less than of a child in the first classes of elementary school. I feel very stupid i paid money for this garbage.
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
2. Harry Littell says:

   October 13, 2010 at 9:20 pm

   One of my sons read this book and insisted that I read it. I had to let it go before I got a third of the way through. I reflect you could say it is idealistic, but in a way that is in many respects nonsensical. I know there are a lot of people who revere this leader, but I establish him reasonably inconsistent in places and to some extent contradictory. Self-esteem in the way our culture necessitates it, as a means of self-justifiability, requires nearly an entire absence of doubt. But in order to make it work you have to start from a place of uncertainty, meaning doubt and dread. The notion is that self-esteem is sufficient to displace such doubt and fears, so when their presence remains it renders the argument, the excuses, and the self justifications and self absolutions are useless and wobbly at best. But the problem is that the role of self-justification and self-heroism is so implanted and embedded in the (movement) that personal failure and weakness are ignored. So what this leader does is make it possible to judge that if you buy self-esteem in the version he pontificates, you will do perfect in your life. Of course this is a deception, and anyone who fully embraces this notion is not going to hold up in the long run because it discourages and avoids the growth of right ego might and personal honesty. Thus when fright comes, the mind may blow. Plus there is this superiority over people who don’t have it, meaning ego might. It lends itself to a pathetic form of self-denial that attests to some tasty and/or sensual form of self worship that only works so long as you are able to keep yourself convinced that you are right and others are incorrect or inadequate. Right there is a valid argument for self-esteem in the way it can foster and nurture self-respect and so on, but that kind is devoid of pride and the neuroses inherent the quest for personal power that is so regularly present in the self-esteem movement. It is this kind of thinking that got people to pull the equities in their houses and presume the excellent life will last forever, while the dark shadows of foreclosure and insecurity nudge their way closer and closer. It is a sad thing. There is no doubt that many people underestimate themselves and doubt themselves unjustly, but this book makes no sense in that regard and simply provides a means to renovate an excuse or purpose to reflect that one person is better than another by ignoring fundamental weaknesses that can never be fully resolved. I didn’t like the book and I don’t like its message although in parts it sounded excellent as it mingles and weaves strong principles within the masks and majesty of its deceptions.
   Reader’s Rating: 2 / 5
3. D. Gerzon says:

   October 13, 2010 at 9:46 pm

   I establish this book as well as additional books of Nathaniel and his ex- “teacher” to be too wordy and unconclusive. While certain things are appealing and worth open discussion they can be described much simpler and in more straight forwards terms.
   Reader’s Rating: 3 / 5
4. Mar. says:

   October 13, 2010 at 10:47 pm

   this book is s pretty dull

   a lot of the stuff is just beside the point

   so much that i wont bother

   better books are:

   http://www.amazon.com/Ten-Days-Self-Esteem-David-Burns/dp/0688094554/ref=sr_1_9?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1279239481&sr=8-9

   house of cards by dawes

   if you have low self esteem just try positive affirmations
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
5. Anonymous says:

   October 14, 2010 at 1:01 am

   I ongoing reading this book and then really heard Brandon (the leader) speak at a Talks. Afterwards I approached him to question a question. He was rude and brash and refused to answer my question. As a replacement for he dismissed me by adage, “Just read my book, I beg you, just read my book.” I truly wondered afterward about how authentic he is (he speaks alot about authenticity in this book). I wondered about his level of self-esteem. Friends who were standing nearby were equally appalled by his words and attitude. I came home and tried again to wade through his book, though I must admit I was far less enthusiastic because of his arrogance (which shows up in this book as well).

   My question involved his concept that people must “earn” their self-esteem. In thinking more about it, I realize I truly disagree with this theory. We are not reliable for having developed low self-esteem which forms in childhood and is the result of what we’ve been taught to judge about ourselves, our worth, our proficiency. Yes, we can do something about it, we can change our view of ourself and learn to like ourselves. But self-esteem is not something we earn–it’s something we learned and can now relearn, if necessary.
   Reader’s Rating: 2 / 5