Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

5 Responses to “Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage”

1. littlesailor says:

   April 7, 2010 at 11:14 pm

   Based on the take in of this book and knowing nothing else but what was writtne on the back when I bought it, I would not recomend this book. It’s misleading. Nowhere does it mention God or The Creator that he talks so much about or the fact that he’s a Christian psychologist. I was highly dissapointed when I establish God on every single page of this book talking about the rights and wrongs of what God has plotted for you as far as sex in marriage goes. This isn’t to say that I’m against God or don’t belive in Him, but really, that was not what I expected out of this book at all. I reflect some of the things he says could be used regardless of your religious beliefs, but much of it is too all ears on what’s right in God’s eyes.
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
2. Anonymous says:

   April 8, 2010 at 1:01 am

   I reflect this book had a certain purpose to say that anything within the bounds of marriage is ok, including sex toys. I reflect most devout Christians will take offense to this. Not to mention he never bothers to comment that if one partner has biblical concerns about any act, the additional partner should honor that. I didn’t find this book to uphold a biblical standard for the sexual union within marriage. There are much better books out there for couples who judge sex is a gift from God not to be abused with worldly attitudes.
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
3. Anonymous says:

   April 8, 2010 at 2:54 am

   The major flaw in this book is that it suffers the presumption that graphic detail equals profundity. It’s unnecessary, and in my view, pornographic descriptions (e.g., Chapter 7, “Oral Delights”) does nothing but to serve up shock masquerading as insight, and the book gives but passing comment to the deeper issues that contribute to truly satisfying, life-long monogamous intimacy (i.e., the building of trust, character, tenderness, commitment, etc.). Indeed, if sexual technique were the key to that area of life, this culture would have no need of any additional material. The topic would have been better served if approached from this angle: “We are arguably the most sex-saturated culture in the world, and yet the most sex-starved. Why?”

   In fleeting, it does a huge disservice to the Christian community, not only for the above reasons, but because it assumes to accurately described how Christ himself would take up the issue. There’s very small doubt in my mind He’d toss it in the trash.
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
4. Chris Wayne says:

   April 8, 2010 at 4:38 am

   Book covers get info on sheet composition. I loved it!
   Reader’s Rating: 5 / 5
5. Vern Peterman says:

   April 8, 2010 at 7:33 am

   Dr. Kevin Lehman is a prolific leader, who has appeared on a number of well-known television and radio programs. In ‘Sheet Composition’ Dr. Leman spends a honest number of pages on the mechanics of sex, including a few anatomical diagrams. But with ‘Sheet Composition’ I would offer several caveats for Christians to keep in mind about this book:

   ‘Sheet Composition’ does not reflect an understanding of the primary power that Scripture is proposed to have for believers. Secular perspectives are commonly seen as having equal or even primary power in comparison to Scripture.

   ‘Sheet Composition’ fails to present or even assume a full biblical context for Christian life and marriage. The book assumes that Christian marriage is monogamous, but provides small to nothing more in the way of biblical support – even failing to present or make reference to biblical passages would powerfully and dramatically support the leader’s point! The substantially secular viewpoint reflected in this book includes:

   · Recommendations that draw from a secular viewpoint, omitting biblical insights
   
   · Directing Christians specifically to resources outside the local church that have a aver to expertise that lies substantially in secular qualifications, but not spiritual qualifications.

   ‘Sheet Composition’ falls fleeting of presenting or assuming the full set of biblical passages, such as:

   · Biblical passages that contain critical revelations from God, Who made marriage and designed sexual intimacy (including Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Peter 3:1-7, etc.).
   
   · Biblical passages on the believer’s position and condition, identification, walking in the Spirit, recognizing and dealing with the sin scenery, and even basic biblical principles on topics like `anxiety’ (Philippians 4:6; 1 Peter 5:7).
   
   · The difference between Law and Grace, and the huge difference it makes in all areas of life (sexual intimacy included) and even into eternity (Romans 5; 7:1-6).
   
   · By pointing believers to resources outside of the local church (counseling professionals, sexual therapy clinics, etc.) believers are then setting aside right biblical counsel within the body of Christ, much of the power and primacy of God’s word, and are telling believers to go to resources that are not grace-based, but are charging for their services (contrary to 2 Corinthians 2:17 & chapters 8, 9).
   
   · Believers are directed to the resources of this world (Galatians 6:14; Ephesians 2:1-3) and of the sin scenery. With the best of intentions, believers are thereby instructed to walk according to this world’s best understanding and in reliance upon the sin scenery.

   With the understanding that I do not recommend this book overall, here are some of the better quotes from this book:

   A couple’s sex life is usually a microcosm of the marriage. Every now and then a couple has a fantastic sex life with a poor marriage, but this is the rarity, something you see only every couple of years. Page 10

   You need to know that every day a woman internally questions her spouse, Do you really like me? Do you really care? Page 10

   What warms a woman up is when her spouse helps around the house, picks up after himself, helps with the children, makes arrangements for dates, and overall cares for her. If a spouse consistently and graciously does this lacking acting like a martyr, he’s going to find, six times out of ten, that his wife is ready and keen to delight in an active and fulfilling like life. It will be a natural response to a lifestyle of sincere affection. Page 11

   Most of us men want to be our wives’ heroes. Page 11
   Reader’s Rating: 2 / 5