Punished By Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes
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The basic strategy we use for raising children, teaching students, and managing workers can be summarized in six words: Do this and you’ll get that. We dangle goodies (from candy bars to sales commissions) in front of people in much the same way we train the family tree pet. Drawing on a wealth of psychological research, Alfie Kohn points the way to a more successful strategy based on effective with people as a replacement for of doing things to them. “Do rewards motivate people?” questions Kohn. “Yes. They motivate people to get rewards.” Seasoned with humor and familiar examples, Punished By Rewards presents an argument unsettling to hear but impossible to dismiss.
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Why do I seem to be getting that…cuumbahhya-ya…feeling? A paradise lost in the grimness of reality. This reality, the scenery of energy teaming-up with biology, can compete against the fundamentals of DOOM… and really WIN !?!?!
Yes, LIFE itself is chock-full of that most dastardly component we all find ourselves reckoning with …[CHANCE]. Give/take, win/lose, up/down, blessed/cursed, and so on. We all take risks of some sort every day of our lives with a hardwired neurological reward system in our brains.
Mr. Kohn has many valid concerns and makes a honestly excellent case for most, in his book: Punished by Rewards. The only problem seems to be that, if these issues were to be resolved- the lion would likely be layin’ with the lamb. At this point their would be NO need in educating our kids or even taking a bath…no work – no sweat.
The claims made by Mr. Kohn are contrariwise to that which drives our entire national economy and much of the entire world. And what’s more…
he provides NO alternative plot to pursue should everyone adhere to this mindless quest into shrillsville. Yet others have tried things like:
NO GOALS SOCCER, EVERYONE GETS A THROPY-(same size of course), OUTCOME BASED EDUCATION, SELF-ESTEEM CIRRICULUM, WERE ALL EQUAL, EVERYONE WINS !!!
Too much of ANYTHING can prove toxic, including something as essential as water. Extreme levels of scorn, as well as praise have their deficiencies and maintaining the acknowledgement of such is parentally imperative. It may well be
that ‘rebellionism’ is genetically linked to ‘growin’-up’, so the proverbial cards could be stacked against us. Finding ways to avoid such extremes, that could either lead the child into ’slackernomics’ or ‘richie-richdom’, are simply NOT provided in Mr. Kohn’s book. He seems ‘hellbent’ on thoughts that may be theoretically useful, early-on … yet when the ‘confront’ is turned and reality emerges – a toxic-shock of this thing overwhelms the small tyke…and the early years are said to be the most hard undo what’s been done.
From page 115 Mr. Kohn states; “Conservative economic principles are out of place when we are talking about what children need and deserve. What they need, as I have said, is UNCONDITIONAL APPROVAL and ACCEPTANCE – the very opposite of verbal rewards, and especially of tough praise. What they deserve, I judge, is what they need.”
WOW !!! Man…that is ‘deeeeeep’. Reminds be of Mr. Obama’s most clever aver that…”we are who we have been waiting for.” Look’s like “we” bought it.
I just don’t “buy” the thought that people should be reprogrammed to provide goods and services to each additional merely out of our compassion for equality and fairness. Their is a distinct difference between honest, unfair, and WRONG. When things go incorrect, challenge ‘em,(oops…competion), then if a resolution is not mutually attainable, consider the rule of law.
Our fantastic nation I truly like and fully respect, with ALL her faults. Yet one area of the Declaration of Independence that rings just a ‘tad’ off key is; ” all men made equal “. How can we , as Humans/Americans be [SPECIAL/EXCLUSIVE/UNIQUE/DISTINCT], and EQUAL at the same time. Also, the founders failed to mention the WOMEN or CHILDREN… but most of us realize the intent was to include us all. Our very freedom, liberty and independence all require a delicate balance of AUTONOMY within the TEAM. A type of AUTONOTEAM that rewards achievement and rarely calls for punishment (when ethically managed), using both critical and creative thinking practices that merge to motivate all freemarketeers to learn the capitalistic approach that best deals with the problems that yearn for the supply and demand method, building AMERICA a right land of possibilities.
That is …what it’s all about —ALFIE .
I recommend the book: LIFTING DEPRESSION by: Dr. Kelly Lambert for a neuroscientific approach to the EFFORT DRIVEN REWARD system of our brains.
Very well written in a most productive prose for all readers.
Also consider the book: HUMAN by: Michael S. Gazzaniga for the science behind what makes us unique.
Note: Please extend your UNCONDITIONAL APPROVAL and ACCEPTANCE of the fact
that I ‘misspelled’ a particular word in the above review …can you find it and pleeeeeezzzz forgive me ???
Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
The leader must be one of persons 60s liberal types who thinks that anyone will perform to the highest levels because, after all, nearly everyone has only the best of intentions and is permanently self-motivated to do the right thing. The problem is that such a view of the world is reasonably unrealistic. Rewards are necessary because a large number of workers are not intrinsically motivated, no matter what we want to judge. To judge otherwise is fighteningly naive.
Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
I have stated in a previous review how I feel about prizes/awards and the punitive tone I feel regularly accompany them.
In 1965 the Queen of England open the Beatles with the MBE Award. John Lennon refused his and some several years later, returned it to the Queen. He felt that he could not, in excellent conscience accept an award that had previously been agreed to people who had killed others in combat.
I was so impressed by John Lennon’s courageous stand against the award. It showed a real might of character and convictions and it showed not compromising one’s standards. I even cheered John’s stand on this and his refusal of the award.
In my earlier review, I criticized what I call “lollipop” awards. Lollipops are simply uniform prizes agreed to all participants. I despise the lollipops because they are patronizing and insulting. The message contained therein is, “Don’t count on being able to earn a real prize. Just be content with a lollipop.” I could never, at any point in my life accept a “lollipop.” The three times I received “lollipops” as a child were three occasions persons lollipops were promptly disposed of. I remember even then consciously thinking that “if I don’t get a REAL prize honestly, then I won’t get one.” I just could not accept a lollipop. Getting such an ersatz prize can really hurt one’s pride and undermine confidence. Although lollipops are usually dispensed with excellent intentions, it regularly backfires.
John Lennon set a excellent example. He did not accept something he did not feel he earned.
I like the way the leader brings home the point that people are NOT a series of conditioned responses. Behaviorism is very restrictive and very limiting in addressing human responses and issues. Alfie Kohn has done a tremendous service in his presentations of this lesson and his opinion are right on target.
I wish everybody agreed with Alfie Kohn’s position. This book is one I would highly recommend to anyone. It is well worth reading.
Reader’s Rating: 5 / 5
But I don’t want to bribe “Alfie” with stars or a excellent review. That might be punishing for him!
Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
He has some useful thoughts, but in most cases his solutions are not practical. Maybe people would have better luck if they could choose their own rewards?
I reflect most of us would agree that people should do things for the “right” reasons, but what if they don’t agree with your reasons? Let’s use the example of cleaning your room. Why should you make your bed? Or clean your room? “So it looks nice”, might work for some. “So you can find your stuff when you need to”, might work for others. But we all know clutterbugs that can really find things just as quickly as the neatnik. So you either snub the mess (that is, adjust your attitude), or if you really want to change the behavior, find a reward that works for that particular person.
As far as school and grades go, you need some sort of system in order to objectively evaluate a name’s performance. Are you getting a name who was in the top 10% of their class, or a name who just scraped by? Maybe grades only in the actual meadow of study, with all electives taken on a pass/fail basis for “enrichment” only. Part of the distress with motivating students is that the schools fail to clarify why something needs to be learned in manner that students can tell to. If you don’t want to work in computers when you get out of school, taking more math is just a waste of time, and you will never have the internal motivation to do well.
In the world of work, maybe if all companies were owned/run by the employees, things might be different, because all would share the same goal of success. But, as long as that is the exception, and not the rule, we will continue to have motivation and reward issues. For some, it is the 3M Principle (Money Motivates Me). For others, it will be benefits (on-site child care, you can bring your dog to work, etc.). Even people who *like* their jobs also want to be paid.
So, this book presents the problem in fantastic detail, but no real solutions. Check out of the library first.
Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5