Forgive for Good

5 Responses to “Forgive for Good”

1. Farelenore says:

   October 11, 2010 at 2:44 pm

   I was so excited to start this book and I was faithful in reading everything even though I just wanted to get to the “How to forgive” part, and then I get there. What a CROCK!! Basically, this leader is adage “Just HOPE for the best because you can’t control people, and you are building unenforceable rules, which is why you’re so miserable!” I didn’t even end this book, and it’s a excellent thing I didn’t by it. I can’t judge this so-called “doctor” thinks just HOPING that a name will do something the way you like it done will make you less disenchanted with everyone. This is B.S. I’m sorry, but that’s not going to help me get rid of the horrible feeling of being cheated on, not by a long shot. I dumped this puppy back in the book return slot at the library. Excellent Riddance! Find another book for forgiveness, that’s what I’m going to do!!
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
2. Anonymous says:

   October 11, 2010 at 3:30 pm

   If I wanted to get a book deal and didn’t have a strong premise, I’d latch onto the earthquake of political conservatism and reactionary religious zeal sweeping America and write a book like this one! Is forgiveness what this book is about? Honestly, Dr. Luskin gives the most convoluted definitions of forgiveness I’ve ever heard.

   I re-read his explanations and it just does not sound like what Webster says forgiveness is. Dr. Luskin may be talking about holding a grudge (yep, that’s terrible for us), or revenge (yep, that too). But forgiveness..? that has nothing to do with whether the person we want to forgive wants to be forgiven….isn’t that just a small bit weird thinking? This whole phenomena makes me marvel how many guilt-ridden, confused people are out there desperate for a quick fix that will tell them (additional than the psychic hotline) what will make things all better. The mix of so-called “scientific data” Luskin strings together to empower his befuddled belief is more propaganda than data to back up his theories. I’ve permanently had a lot of respect for Stanford Univ. It’s been such a progressive beacon daring to be adventurous while still holding on to a careful scientific base. This shows how political climates can infect education. As a therapist, I can appreciate many of the thoughts about dealing with rage and learning how to stop obsessing about things we can’t change.
   And there are many chapters that are about anything but forgiveness before Luskin even addresses that topic directly, well,sort of.

   His title will, no doubt, catch the attention of persons poor lost souls hiding in religious thoughts and using it as a crutch to keep from learning how to deal with the real world. Yes, there is terrible stuff in the real world but there’s also lots thats excellent for us too. For example, thoughts that challenge rigid, close-minded belief systems like racist, sexist, classist ones.
   I hope somebody else out there can see past a title that is really religio/conservative snakeoil that offers simple-minded solutions to complex questions. This is regularly a well loved thing. I reflect I’ll Stick to forgiving persons who really want to be forgiven (and mean it too)and also forgiving me too for not being as clever, polished and disingenuous as Dr.Luskin at making excellent hype.(and for not really wanting to be that)
   Reader’s Rating: 2 / 5
3. Anonymous says:

   October 11, 2010 at 4:30 pm

   This is the most ridiculous, stupid, dumb, overdone, silly book I have ever read. To have blind forgiveness in the face of hard realities is just stupid. In this book everything is forgivable–please don’t insult my intelligence.
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
4. Anonymous says:

   October 11, 2010 at 6:37 pm

   I establish this book to be hard to read, repetitive, and dull. Didn’t get much from it at all!
   Reader’s Rating: 1 / 5
5. Anonymous says:

   October 11, 2010 at 7:24 pm

   The front of the book claims more than it delivers. Enough Said.
   Reader’s Rating: 2 / 5